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Done. The first year of law school culminated this week with a seven hour exam in LA. It was a pleasure to meet classmates - who I've only ever chatted with online. We're all self-motivated, adult-onset ADD geeks. Doug should be sending me a picture....

And now I'm taking two whole days to decompress before I head home to my family, the movie, work....

Staring out at the expansive ocean and listening to the waves crash outside my Carlsbad hotel room.....feeling the tension of studying float away.

I could stay here forever.

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