I am....

...thinking. We made it through the holidays and no one lost a limb, their eyes or their temper. It was a great Christmas even though there was too much time with the ex. We do the somewhat messed up post-divorce thing of getting together as a group. This year included my ex-in-laws, my grandpa, my parents, the ex and our kids for Christmas dinner (where I rocked the lobster bisque...btw.) For all its greatness, I do think we may have reached a point where we will try and divide and conquer the holidays more. Because my house used to be "our" house he feels uncomfortable. It hasn't been strange for me to have him as a guest here. The day he moved out I painted my bedroom, cleaned everything and rearranged the furniture. There was hardly a trace that he ever lived here. He definitely always seemed like a guest in this suburban life we'd created with our kids and definitely didn't like the house so I was surprised that he shared that it was hard to come to